Comments on: Quarterlife http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/2009/05/27/quarterlife/ Erin Seabolt Bond Wed, 08 Feb 2012 13:50:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: Erin http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/2009/05/27/quarterlife/comment-page-1/#comment-575 Erin Tue, 02 Jun 2009 02:28:59 +0000 http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/?p=306#comment-575 I want to take a little weekend trip to Charleston sometime soon--we haven't taken advantage of the ability to hop down there. Books definitely help too! And, thanks to the library, are free... I want to take a little weekend trip to Charleston sometime soon–we haven’t taken advantage of the ability to hop down there.

Books definitely help too! And, thanks to the library, are free…

]]> By: Maria http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/2009/05/27/quarterlife/comment-page-1/#comment-572 Maria Sun, 31 May 2009 03:30:59 +0000 http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/?p=306#comment-572 Not really. I haven't found a way to get out of my "comfort zone" When I was in Wilmington, there seemed to be tons of fun things to do that didn't cost too much. Plus where you are, it's a short drive to Charleston. I'm so glad that I came across your blog, and found that it's not an uncommon thing. To be at our age, and feeling like we're 50. I think I might need to make a list too. Mainly I just find a good read, and get lost in that. Although, there is always the dream of leaving and starting new (although that is so not gonna happen ) Not really. I haven’t found a way to get out of my “comfort zone” When I was in Wilmington, there seemed to be tons of fun things to do that didn’t cost too much. Plus where you are, it’s a short drive to Charleston. I’m so glad that I came across your blog, and found that it’s not an uncommon thing. To be at our age, and feeling like we’re 50. I think I might need to make a list too. Mainly I just find a good read, and get lost in that. Although, there is always the dream of leaving and starting new (although that is so not gonna happen )

]]> By: Erin http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/2009/05/27/quarterlife/comment-page-1/#comment-571 Erin Sat, 30 May 2009 12:48:44 +0000 http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/?p=306#comment-571 Yana: I'm so glad that you guys have found happiness in Orlando and are enjoying your new home. Vacations help! I think knowing that where you're at isn't necessarily where you'll have to stay forever is key. When I lose sight on dreams of living elsewhere, I get the suffocating feeling much more. I would love to live in one place but then spend summers in different places. (I don't know why I have to pick the dream that's even less likely than just moving to a new place, but that's what I'd really like...) Maria: Hi there! I never knew other people were feeling this way either until I started talking about it with Kara and then wrote this. I guess it's pretty common--and here I was thinking it was just me. Nice to know I'm not crazy or anything like that. I'm trying to come up with a list of things to do around here (that don't cost much) to feel spontaneous and adventurous and not forty-seven. Have you found anything that helps? Yana: I’m so glad that you guys have found happiness in Orlando and are enjoying your new home. Vacations help! I think knowing that where you’re at isn’t necessarily where you’ll have to stay forever is key. When I lose sight on dreams of living elsewhere, I get the suffocating feeling much more. I would love to live in one place but then spend summers in different places. (I don’t know why I have to pick the dream that’s even less likely than just moving to a new place, but that’s what I’d really like…)

Maria: Hi there! I never knew other people were feeling this way either until I started talking about it with Kara and then wrote this. I guess it’s pretty common–and here I was thinking it was just me. Nice to know I’m not crazy or anything like that. I’m trying to come up with a list of things to do around here (that don’t cost much) to feel spontaneous and adventurous and not forty-seven. Have you found anything that helps?

]]> By: Maria http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/2009/05/27/quarterlife/comment-page-1/#comment-570 Maria Sat, 30 May 2009 00:10:54 +0000 http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/?p=306#comment-570 I came across your blog last week I think, and found your post today rather interesting. Here I was thinking that I must be the only one with this whole quarter life crisis. I know how beautiful Wilmington is to visit, so I guess it would get dull living there full time. I hope things work out. If you find something to help with the quarter life thing, could you please let me know? Thanks. Maria I came across your blog last week I think, and found your post today rather interesting. Here I was thinking that I must be the only one with this whole quarter life crisis. I know how beautiful Wilmington is to visit, so I guess it would get dull living there full time. I hope things work out. If you find something to help with the quarter life thing, could you please let me know?

Thanks.
Maria

]]> By: Yana http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/2009/05/27/quarterlife/comment-page-1/#comment-569 Yana Wed, 27 May 2009 19:04:06 +0000 http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/?p=306#comment-569 I think I went through a quarter-life crisis about a year or two ago, before we bought our house. I wanted to pick up and move—anywhere. I was applying for jobs in D.C., Atlanta, etc. But then the recession began, we bought the house, and life settled down. I'm happy here. Part of me wishes we had made the leap then, but I know that it would have been a struggle. Both of us would have had to find jobs, housing, school, you name it. I am just not a risk-taker, and I don't enjoy or thrive on stress like some people do. I like the comfort of my salary, knowing I can go on vacation if I want to, and being able to buy that pair of shoes or new curtains. And I believe that home is where you make it, so Orlando is home for now. We have great friends here, an expanding local scene, and our families are close by. There are times when I feel confined, like I just need to escape, but the feelings pass. We take vacations as often as we can, which suppresses my longing for different kinds of land and weather, and in my heart I know that we won't always be here. One day I just might live in San Fransisco or Paris! I think I went through a quarter-life crisis about a year or two ago, before we bought our house. I wanted to pick up and move—anywhere. I was applying for jobs in D.C., Atlanta, etc. But then the recession began, we bought the house, and life settled down. I’m happy here.

Part of me wishes we had made the leap then, but I know that it would have been a struggle. Both of us would have had to find jobs, housing, school, you name it. I am just not a risk-taker, and I don’t enjoy or thrive on stress like some people do. I like the comfort of my salary, knowing I can go on vacation if I want to, and being able to buy that pair of shoes or new curtains. And I believe that home is where you make it, so Orlando is home for now. We have great friends here, an expanding local scene, and our families are close by.

There are times when I feel confined, like I just need to escape, but the feelings pass. We take vacations as often as we can, which suppresses my longing for different kinds of land and weather, and in my heart I know that we won’t always be here. One day I just might live in San Fransisco or Paris!

]]> By: Erin http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/2009/05/27/quarterlife/comment-page-1/#comment-568 Erin Wed, 27 May 2009 13:38:54 +0000 http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/?p=306#comment-568 "contentment does not equal happiness" -- yes! thank you for saying that. sounds backwards, but it gives me hope because I didn't want my wanderlust to mean I could never be content... “contentment does not equal happiness” — yes! thank you for saying that. sounds backwards, but it gives me hope because I didn’t want my wanderlust to mean I could never be content…

]]> By: David P. http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/2009/05/27/quarterlife/comment-page-1/#comment-567 David P. Wed, 27 May 2009 13:36:21 +0000 http://www.erinseaboltbond.com/?p=306#comment-567 I have struggled with restlessness since I graduated college. Everyday I battle the need to be somewhere else or do something new. Half of this is a lack of contentment which I am constantly having to surrender and I think the other half is just how I was created. I don't think I will ever be a person that is satisfied with the status quo kind of life. I want adventure and change and I don't think there is anything wrong with this. I just have to be aware so that it does not take control of my life and cause me to neglect my responsibilities at home and work (which has happened before). All that to say, I understand where you are coming from. One thing I have learned is that contentment does not equal happiness. It is very easy to confuse the two. Happiness is completely determined upon your circumstances... Just my two cents! :) I have struggled with restlessness since I graduated college. Everyday I battle the need to be somewhere else or do something new. Half of this is a lack of contentment which I am constantly having to surrender and I think the other half is just how I was created. I don’t think I will ever be a person that is satisfied with the status quo kind of life. I want adventure and change and I don’t think there is anything wrong with this. I just have to be aware so that it does not take control of my life and cause me to neglect my responsibilities at home and work (which has happened before).

All that to say, I understand where you are coming from. One thing I have learned is that contentment does not equal happiness. It is very easy to confuse the two. Happiness is completely determined upon your circumstances… Just my two cents! :)

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